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I Found Out From My Child That My Husband Knows About My Other Man –

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After the birth of our second child, my husband fell sick. It was really bad. I feared we were going to lose him until we went to the hospital. The doctors stabilized him, ran some tests, and then discussed their diagnosis with me.

Your husband has depression and high blood pressure,” they declared. They assured us that he would be fine as long as he took his medications regularly. He was given a diet plan to manage the pressure. With time, he got better as the doctors assured us…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

 

I was ready for us to resume our marriage until I found out something was off about him. This man used to pounce on me at the slightest chance he got. That’s how passionate our love life was. We were always all over each other. All of that disappeared after his recovery. He started acting as if I wasn’t an attractive woman living with him.

I would undress before him but he wouldn’t be moved. It was painful for me to admit that my husband was losing interest in me sexually but that was the case. I reported the change to our doctors and they said, “It’s a side effect of his medications. It happens sometimes but don’t let it get to you. Eventually, he will return to the way he was.

They are the experts so I trusted them. I was filled with hope that things would get better but they only got worse. No matter how understanding I wanted to be, I am also a woman with needs. The sexual starvation got to me. I was doing my best to wait but how long could I wait? When it became too unbearable for me I had a conversation with my husband about my frustrations. With nonchalance, he said, “If you want it that bad then make the move.

I will do my best to meet you halfway.” It was something. Something that gave me hope. The first time I initiated intimacy, he rose to the occasion as promised. I was so happy until I wasn’t. The man who used to pound me into satisfaction now could not last beyond one minute.

I know some men finish fast during the first round, but when you get them going again they take you home during the second round. Unfortunately, my husband’s situation is nothing like that. The moment he is done with those few seconds of performance, there’s no rematch. He just gets up and goes about his business or nods off to sleep. It’s been like this with him for the past nine years.

I suffered a lot when it all began. I tried to make lemonade out of the lemons life dealt me. I told my husband that there are several ways to satisfy a woman that does not involve penile penetration. “You can use your tongue to get me there,” I suggested. He listened but refused to do it. I ended up developing an addiction to adult films as a result. I didn’t watch the ones with men doing it with women. I preferred the ones with women doing it with each other.

I would watch a woman go down on another woman and imagine I was the one at the receiving end of that pleasure. It was a harmless thing at first. All I wanted to do was live vicariously through women who were getting their needs met. Little did I know that I would soon graduate to wanting to participate in those acts. I thought about it often. I imagined how it would feel to experience the touch of a woman. I got pleasure from these thoughts.

If I knew any women who were into this kind of thing, I am sure I would have given myself to them. I didn’t so it all remained a fantasy that haunted me. To rid myself of my perverse desires, I spoke to a female doctor. I explained my struggles with intimacy in my marriage and the ways I tried to soothe my aches. She said no good would come out of me switching teams when it came to sexuality. We started some counseling sessions to help me overcome my addiction. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

It helped so we kept going. As we continued to talk, we got closer and closer. Sometimes she would invite me to social events. Other times we would hang out as friends, just the two of us. I found her friendship comforting. It helped me to clear my head whenever I felt overwhelmed. One time she invited me to a house party. It was a birthday party for a gentleman in her circle. As always, I showed up. Later at the party, she introduced me to the guy. We had a brief chat but that little moment felt like eternity. He is easy on the eyes, a great conversationalist, and I felt a spark with him.

He felt it too. If not, he wouldn’t have invited me to chill with him the weekend after our meeting. We went on to spend the next few weekends hanging out and getting acquainted. One day I was talking to the doctor when she asked me, “How are things going with Paul?” I shrugged and answered, “He is a nice guy and we enjoy each other’s company.” “He told me he likes you.” “Aww, that’s nice. I like him too.” “Do you understand what I mean? He said wants to have you.

And let me tell you, his head game is good.” She didn’t say anything more. She didn’t have to. We are not children. I understood what she meant. And out of curiosity, I decided to give him a try. After years of starvation with my husband, my experience with Paul felt like the first rain after eight years of drought. It was orgasmic, literally. Although I was judging myself the entire time we were doing it, the one thought that kept running through my mind was, “Damn, this guy is good!” I had purposed in my mind that it was going to be a one-time thing, but I kept going back for more.

Each time I would tell myself, “This is the last time. I won’t do it again.” It’s been one year now and we are still going at it. When we started, it was all about getting my satisfaction from him but now things have changed. We’ve fallen in love. If you see me with him, you would think he is my husband. Meanwhile, I am in a fourteen-year-old marriage.

I think I got so caught up in my happiness that I forgot to cover my tracks. I am saying this because my first child recently told me that my husband knows about what I’m doing. I didn’t believe him until he asked, “Isn’t his name Paul? He knows him.

He says he hasn’t said anything to you because he knows he can’t do anything about it. But he doesn’t mind giving you a divorce if that’s what will make you happy.” I don’t know which one is worse: hearing that my husband knows about my affair but has been acting perfectly normal and fulfilling his duties as a husband, or hearing the news from my child?

If shame could kill, mine would have rendered me a corpse long ago. I can’t look my husband in the eyes anymore even though he still hasn’t confronted me. I feel so stupid for doing this to my family. Accepting the divorce seems like a reasonable way out but I don’t want my kids to stay away from their father.

I am already aware that people will judge and insult me but that’s fine with me. I know there are women here who have walked in my shoes and will understand what led me here. I am counting on understanding souls like them to see past my shortcomings and counsel me. Should I let my husband know that I know he knows about the affair?

 

 

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One of the worst torture methods in history involves being ‘licked to death’ by a goat

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At this point I’m pretty sure people were just trying whatever they could think of

If there’s one truth about human beings which has endured throughout history it’s that we’re a bunch of weirdos who do some very strange things.

Naturally, that includes finding weird ways to hurt or kill each other, as some of the methods are just downright bizarre.

You’d think that by the time people were coming up with ways to kill each other involving two boats and copious lashings of milk and honey that we were pretty much running out of ideas and freestyling but human ingenuity had plenty more in the tank when it came to being horrible…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

Of course, there was the guy who built a giant torture device in the shape of a bull, and ended up becoming the first victim of his own creation, while at other times the implements are as simple as something which pulls your limbs out of their joints.

An artist's impression of the 'goat's tongue' punishment (By Nan Palmero from San Antonio, TX, USA - Rothenburg Germany Torture Museum, CC BY 2.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=65242774)

However, each of these methods involves some kind of gadget or implement, for a more low tech alternative then you might consider one which needs nothing beyond a bucket of saltwater and a goat.

This historic torture method was known as the ‘goat’s tongue’ and could leave a person in agonising pain or even result in their death.

How it worked was a person would have their feet immersed in saltwater to make it more vulnerable to peeling and then the poor victim will be secured in place so that the goat can properly be deployed.

The idea is that the goat will go and lick the person’s salty feet, and the unceasing tongue lashing from the bleating beast would slowly but steadily wear down the skin on the soles of the feet. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

While having the soles of your feet licked by a goat might initially feel quite ticklish, it must have been agony once the skin starts wearing down and you wish you were anywhere else other than stuck with a goat licking your feet.

Such a torture could even result in death should the wounds that form on the soles of the feet become infected, and having a farm animal lick your open wounds seems like a good way to get them infected.

The ‘goat’s tongue’ was described in documents condemning the use of torture and is thought to date back to the days of Ancient Rome.

While they had some decent ways to treat illness and it wasn’t all dreadful when it came to medical care, you’d much rather not get some sort of infection in those times.

Oh no, the most terrifying torture implement ever! (ROMEO GACAD/AFP via Getty Images)
Oh no, the most terrifying torture implement ever! (ROMEO GACAD/AFP via Getty Images)

Plus, with the skin on the soles of your feet licked down to absolutely nothing good luck walking anywhere for an incredibly long amount of time.

Even if the goat’s tongue didn’t infect your wounds then trying to walk on your ruined feet would probably have a similar impact.

Be glad that the horrific torture method is no longer used in this day and age.

 

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I Visited My Dying Boyfriend At The Hospital Only To Meet The Shock Of My Life

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They were three guys when I met them. Martin, Joe and Laka. It was Martin who called and talked to me. They were new in town and were looking for friends. I agreed to be friends with them.

All of them became my friends and since they were living in the same house, I went there on weekends to help them. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

They were kind to me. They bought gifts for me when they returned from their travels. They gave me money when…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

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The Igbo Landing – Story Of Igbo Slaves Who Rebelled Against Slave Traders And Committed Mass Suicide In U.S.A., 1803

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Jamaican artist, Donovan Nelson’s illustration paying tribute to the Igbo Landing Event.

Countless accounts of terrifying and dehumanizing events that happened during the slave trade era have been passed down from generations to generations; accounts of irrational cruelty, starvation, resistance, mass killings and suicide. The story of the Igbo landing is another tear-evoking account of resistance to slavery by the Igbo slaves from present-day Nigeria off U.S. coast in 1803…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

What Is The Igbo Landing Or Ibo Landing?

 

The Igbo landing, also written as ‘Ibo landing‘ or ‘Ebo landing‘, is a historic site at Dunbar Creek on St. Simons Island, Glynn County, Georgia, U.S.A. where dozens of Igbo slaves took their own lives in a resistance to the cruelty of slavery in 1803.

In May, 1803, a ship named the wanderer, just like other slave ships, conveyed slaves from Africa to America. Among these slaves were set of Igbo people who were known by the then slave traders of the American South for being fiercely independent and unwilling to tolerate chattel slavery. The Igbo slaves were bought by the agents of John Couper and Thomas Spalding at $100 each for forced labour on their plantations in St. Simons Island, U.S.A.

The Igbo Landing, St. Simons Island
The Igbo Landing, St. Simons Island

When the slave ship landed in Savannah, Georgia, the chained Igbo slaves were reloaded and shoved under the deck of a coastal vessel named the Schooner York (some accounts claimed the vessel name was Morovia) which would take them to St. Simons Island. It was during the voyage that the group of Igbo slaves numbering about seventy-five rebelled against their captors and forced them to plunge into the water where they drowned. The slaves successfully regained their freedom but it was of no use since they were already out and far away from Africa, and so, on the order of a high chief who was also a captive, they sang, marched ashore and then into the marshy waters of Dunbar Creek where they drowned themselves.

According to Professor Terri L. Snyder, “the enslaved cargo suffered much by mismanagement, rose from their confinement in the small vessel, and revolted against the crew, forcing them into the water where they drowned”. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

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Another illustration paying tribute to the Igbo Landing Event by Donovan Nelson

A white man, Roswell King, who was an overseer on a plantation known as Pierce Butler plantation was the first to record the incident at the site now known as the Igbo landing. Roswell and another man, Captain Peterson, recovered thirteen bodies of the drowned Igbos while others bodies were lost forever in the water. OldNaija gathered that some of them might have survived the suicide episode and this make the actual number of deaths in the Igbo landing uncertain.

“Regardless of the numbers, the deaths signaled a powerful story of resistance as these captives overwhelmed their captors in a strange land, and many took their own lives rather than remain enslaved in the New World. The Igbo Landing gradually took on enormous symbolic importance in local African American folklore”. – Momodu, Samuel

Igbo Landing Site
Igbo Landing Site

People in the U.S.A termed the resistance and suicide by the Igbo slaves the first freedom march in the history of Africa and the United States. Local people claimed that the Landing and surrounding marshes in Dunbar Creek where the Igbo people committed mass suicide in May, 1803 were haunted by the souls of the dead Igbo slaves.

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FREEING THE SOULS OF IGBO LANDING, THE NEVER-BEEN-RULED. “The Water Spirit Omambala brought us here. The Water Spirit Omambala will carry us home.” (Orimiri Omambala bu anyi bia. Orimiri Omambala ka anyi ga ejina. – Ancient Igbo Hymn)

In September, 2012, the Igbo Landing site was designated as a holy ground by the St. Simons African American community. The Igbo Landing is also now a part of the curriculum for coastal Georgia schools.

In recent times, many artists, songs, movies and others have paid tribute to the Igbo landing/ Ibo landing. A notable tribute is found in the ending part of Marvel’s comic movie, Black Panther, where Killmonger, played by Michael B Jordan, refer to the event by saying, “Bury me in the ocean with my ancestors who jumped from ships, ’cause they knew death was better than bondage”. Beyoncé also was not left out in the tribute paying as she portrayed the incident in of her music videos.

 

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