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If you don’t want your partner to take you for granted, say goodbye to these 10 habits In any relationship, feeling appreciated is vital. But when your partner begins to take you for granted, it can lead to frustration and resentment.

Sometimes it’s not about their actions, but our own habits that foster this feeling of being undervalued. The good news is, by recognizing and discarding these habits, we can influence how our partner perceives us…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

So, let me share with you these 10 habits to say goodbye to, ensuring your partner never takes you for granted.

It’s common to always want to be there for your partner—you care about them deeply. But constantly being available can inadvertently lead to them taking your time and presence for granted.

The truth is, no one should feel obligated to be available 24/7, even in a relationship. Establishing boundaries and maintaining your own life outside of the relationship isn’t about playing games or being distant. It’s about preserving a healthy balance and ensuring your partner values your time together.

Believe me, breaking this habit will not only prevent your partner from taking you for granted but also foster a more balanced and fulfilling relationship.

In my past relationships, I had a tendency to over-apologize. Even in minor disagreements, I’d find myself saying sorry, even when I wasn’t at fault.

At first, I thought it was just a way to be considerate, to avoid conflict and maintain harmony. But I came to realize that it wasn’t about peace at all—I was actually diminishing my own worth and teaching my partner to overlook my feelings.

While it’s important to apologize when you’re in the wrong, excessively saying sorry for every little thing can send a message that your feelings, thoughts, and opinions are less important.

Once I started reserving my apologies for situations where they were truly warranted, I noticed a significant change in my relationships. My partner began to value our conversations more and respect my perspective. This shift allowed for healthier communication and mutual respect to flourish.

In psychology, there’s a concept known as the ‘self-care deficit theory.’ This theory suggests that neglecting our own well-being can impair our ability to effectively care for others.

Self-care isn’t just about indulging in luxury or treating yourself to expensive treats. It’s about dedicating time each day to nurture your physical, emotional, and mental health.

When we overlook self-care, we might inadvertently convey to our partner that our needs aren’t important. This could lead them to take us for granted, mirroring the way we treat ourselves.

Whether it’s pursuing a hobby you love, ensuring you get enough rest, or simply carving out moments for quiet reflection, remember that self-care isn’t selfish. It’s a vital practice if you want your partner to recognize and value you as much as you deserve.

Communication truly is the cornerstone of any relationship. Yet, so many of us hesitate to express our needs, fearing we might seem clingy or overly demanding.

But here’s the thing—your partner isn’t a mind reader. Without open communication, they might not even realize what you need or want. And that can inadvertently lead to them taking you for granted.

It’s crucial to communicate your needs in a constructive and assertive manner. This isn’t about being selfish or stirring up trouble. Instead, it’s about nurturing a healthy dialogue and establishing clear expectations.

Confrontations aren’t anyone’s favorite activity. They can be awkward and emotionally draining. But avoiding them altogether can result in your feelings being ignored and your partner taking you for granted.

When you brush issues under the rug, you’re essentially giving your partner the message that their actions, no matter how hurtful or thoughtless, are okay. This sets a precedent where they might think they can continue their behavior without any consequences.

Keep in mind, a healthy relationship involves having tough conversations with respect and empathy. So, don’t shy away from confrontations—they can be the key to ensuring your partner values your feelings and needs.

Love is indeed about giving, but it should never feel like a one-way street. If you’re constantly pouring in more effort, care, and attention with little in return, it’s time to reassess this pattern.

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Despite its heartfelt intentions, this tendency can inadvertently lead your partner to take your efforts for granted. It may establish an unhealthy dynamic where they become accustomed to receiving without feeling the need to reciprocate.

Love thrives on balance. It’s a mutual exchange where both partners contribute equally. Don’t let fear overshadow your self-worth. You deserve a relationship where your efforts are valued and met with reciprocity.

There was a period in my life where I settled for less than I deserved in a relationship. I made excuses for their lack of effort, their dismissive behavior, and my own unhappiness. I convinced myself that this was just the way love was supposed to be.

But with time, I came to realize that settling for less isn’t an act of love—it’s a betrayal of oneself.

When you settle, you send the message to your partner that their minimal effort is sufficient. This can lead them to take you for granted, assuming that regardless of their actions, you’ll always be there.

The journey toward self-love and self-respect begins with recognizing your own worth. And once you do, you’ll understand that you deserve a partner who values and cherishes you just as much as you do them.

In relationships, it’s natural to want to lend a hand when our loved ones face tough times. However, there’s a delicate balance between being supportive and attempting to solve all their problems.

While it may seem helpful to offer quick fixes, it can inadvertently convey a lack of trust in your partner’s ability to handle their own challenges. This not only diminishes their confidence but may also lead them to take your support for granted.

Keep in mind, being there for your partner doesn’t always mean providing solutions. Sometimes, it’s about listening, empathizing, and offering encouragement as they navigate their difficulties.

In the game of love, keeping score is a losing strategy. When we start keeping tabs on who did what, who apologized first, or who made more sacrifices, it creates a competitive atmosphere in the relationship.

Keeping score can lead to resentment and a feeling of being taken for granted. It’s because when you’re caught up in counting, you might overlook the efforts your partner is making.

Instead, focus on fostering a sense of teamwork in your relationship. Appreciate the efforts, big or small, that your partner puts into the relationship without comparing them to your own.

One of the most precious things you bring to a relationship is your uniqueness. However, when we merge our lives with someone else, it’s easy to lose sight of our individuality.

When you let go of your interests, passions, and personal growth for the sake of the relationship, it can lead your partner to take your self-sacrifice for granted. They may begin to overlook the unique person you are.

Maintaining your individuality isn’t about keeping distance or leading separate lives. It’s about nurturing the things that make you ‘you’, even as you share your life with someone else.

Never compromise on who you are for the sake of a relationship. Your uniqueness is your power, and it’s what makes you irreplaceable. Cherish it, nurture it, and never let it be taken for granted.

In essence, maintaining a healthy relationship is all about balance and communication. It’s essential to ensure that both you and your partner feel valued and respected.

Don’t hesitate to express your needs and boundaries openly and honestly. Your feelings and contributions are just as important as your partner’s.

If you find yourself feeling unappreciated, address it calmly and constructively. Encourage mutual appreciation and acknowledgment of each other’s efforts. Foster a partnership where both partners actively support and uplift one another.

When you prioritize open communication, mutual respect, and appreciation, you can better lay the groundwork for a strong and lasting relationship.

 

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I Just Met This Guy, He Took Me To a Hotel When We Got There, What He Did Left Me Outraged

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I walked into an eatery one afternoon to order takeout. While I waited for my food I kept busy with my phone. A man walked up to me with determination on his face. He smiled and said “Hello my name is Victor. I have been trying to get your attention from my table over there (he points to a far-off table). READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

You didn’t even blink in my direction.” I looked at him and said “Sorry I’ve been engrossed with my phone.” He said “I can see that. I suppose that’s how to get your attention, through your phone. Can you give me your number then?” I didn’t mind giving…Read Full Story Here……..

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1999 Toronto Saga: How Former Speaker, Salisu Buhari, Declared False Age and Forged University Certificate

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On the 3rd of June, 1999, Salisu Buhari, a 29-year-old Nigerian businessman who made his fortune dealing in computers, was elected as the speaker of the House of Representatives in Nigeria, a position which constitutionally made him the fourth most important person in Nigeria.

Unknowing to his colleagues, the government and the whole of Nigeria, Salisu Buhari was not qualified for the office he occupied. Few weeks after he was elected, findings revealed that Salisu Buhari, the sixth Speaker of the House of Rep. forged his way to power…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

The News Magazine released an article on the 19th of July, 1999 claiming that Salisu Buhari is seven years younger than the 36 years he claimed to be and that he didn’t attend the University of Toronto in Canada not to talk of graduating from the institution. The News Magazine had more than enough proofs to back their claims thus suppressing all threats made by Salisu Buhari and his lawyers to sue them for libel.

Salisu Buhari
Salisu Buhari

It was made known to the world that Salisu Buhari, the self-acclaimed Toronto University graduate, was actually born in 1970 and not in 1963 which he claimed. This rendered him unqualified to be the Speaker as section 65 subsection 1 of the 1999 constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria disqualified anybody under 30 years from contesting membership of the House of Representatives.

Also, it was made known that Salisu Buhari didn’t attend the University of Toronto in Canada not to talk of graduating with a degree in Business Administration in 1990. The University of Toronto, when asked, denied knowing Salisu Buhari. The management said they couldn’t find any record relating to the his name. Carlo Villanueva, an official of the Institution said,

Regarding your request for confirmation of degree for Mr. Ibrahim Salisu Buhari. We have searched our records and could not find anybody with the name you are inquiring with”.

Letter from University of Toronto
Letter from University of Toronto

Also, Salisu claimed that he did his national youth service at Standard Construction in Kano. This was proven false as records at the NYSC secretariat in Abuja could not produce his name among the 1991 corps members who served in the scheme. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

Blocked in every way, he had no means of escape. After several open denial of the allegations and threats to sue The News Magazine, Salisu Buhari, on Thursday, July 23, 1999, eventually faced Nigerians and admitted declaring false age and forging certificate. In tears, he said,

“I apologize to you. I apologize to the nation. I apologize to my family and friends for all the distress I have caused them. I was misled in error by the zeal to serve the nation, I hope the nation will forgive me and give me the opportunity to serve again.”

He then resigned and walked into the shadows. In 2013, he made his return to the news and the public space when he was appointed as a member of the governing council of the University of Nigeria by President Goodluck Jonathan’s administration.

Normally, the move garnered a lot of criticism. In a feeble attempt to justify the appointment, the Nigerian government explained that Buhari’s apology had earned him a presidential pardon from President Olusegun Obasanjo.

 

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The Man Called Adegoke Adelabu ‘Penkelemesi’

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Joseph Gbadamosi Adegoke Adelabu alias Adelabu Penkelemesi was a colossal in the political arena of Ibadan and the then Western Region before the independence of Nigeria in 1960.

He was born in Oke-Oluokun, Ibadan, on September 3, 1915 to Mr. Sanusi Ashiyanbi Adelabu and Mrs. Awujola Adelabu. At the tender age of five, Adegoke Adelabu lost his mother and then lived with his paternal aunt. Adegoke Adelabu attended St. David’s C.M.S School in Kudeti, Ibadan from 1925 to 1929; CMS Central School, Mapo, Ibadan in 1930 and Government College, where he was a head boy, from 1931 to 1936…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

In 1936, Adegoke won a U.A.C scholarship to study commerce in Yaba Higher College but eventually left the college six months later to work as an assistant to the UAC Ibadan district manager. After working with UAC for sometime, he was promoted to an Assistant Manager due to his hard and clever work. However, he left UAC in 1937 to start a business of his own which was unsuccessful. He later took up a civil service job, then returned to UAC in 1945 only to leave after a short period to start a textile trading business which was successful.

After acquiring little wealth from his textile business, Adegoke Adelabu got involved in politics. The starting point of his political career was traced to the period when Ibadan lineage chiefs (Mogajis) rose against Salami Agbaje, the then Otun Balogun of Ibadan, from becoming the Olubadan of Ibadan. In 1951, during the local elections, Adelabu and some other political elements formed a new party called the Ibadan People’s Party to challenge the already established Ibadan Progressive Union and fortunately for Adelabu, the new party won all six seats to the Western Regional Assembly. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

However, the Ibadan People’s Party broke apart after an informal alliance with NCNC was proposed by Adelabu. Adegoke Adelabu stayed with NCNC and became the secretary of the party’s Western Province Working Committee. In 1954, Adelabu became the chairman of Ibadan District Council. Also, in the Federal elections of 1954, Adegoke Adelabu won a seat to the House of Representatives and later became the First National Vice President of NCNC and appointed Minister of Social Services. He held this post along with his chairmanship of the Ibadan district council.

He later resigned from both positions after allegations of corruption by the opposition party, Action Group.
In 1956, Adelabu ran for a seat in the regional assembly as the leader of NCNC in the Western Region but his party lost majority seats to Action Group thus making Adelabu the leader of opposition in the Western House of Assembly.
Adegoke Adelabu alias Adelabu Penkelemesi was a strong politician, leader and had his ground, a firm ground, in Ibadan. He was found of using the phrase “Peculiar mess” whenever he address the public. The non-literate segment of his followers who had never heard of the words peculiar and mess and never knew its meaning Yorubanized the phrase into “Penkelemesi” and then added it to his name- Adegoke Adelabu Penkelemesi. The people so much loved Adelabu. He was indeed a ‘man of the people’. OldNaija gathered that when he became the Minister of Labour, he was given an official limousine car which he drove to Ibadan to show his friends and followers and declared that the car belonged to them, not him. Also, when Adelabu was given an official residence in Ikoyi, the most exquisite part of Lagos inhabited mostly by the British and French, he called drummers from his hometown to celebrate the success which the British and French residents found disturbing. Adegoke Adelabu simply said, “If they do not like noise and drumming, they are free to go back to their own country.” Adegoke Adelabu admitted being an egoist in a book he wrote in 1952 titled ‘Africa In Ebullition: Being a handbook of freedom for Nigerian nationalists’.

Adegoke Adelabu and Obafemi Awolowo
Adegoke Adelabu and Obafemi Awolowo

On March 25, 1958, at the age of 43, Adegoke Adelabu met his untimely death in a fatal car accident on the Lagos-Ibadan expressway. His death sparked protest and chaos in Ibadan as many of his supporters claimed he was assassinated by his opponents with juju. Several properties were destroyed and people also lost their lives. The police arrested over 500 persons of whom 102 was charged with murder and others discharged and some, jailed. It was indeed a big loss, a “peculiar miss” for the people of Ibadan.

 

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