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We Agreed To Do It Only For Him To Deny The Pregnancy –

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He called to ask me, “Now that you’ve broken up with me, what should I tell your family when we come for the introduction?” The question made me angry. How was a grown man acting as if he did not have a mind of his own? Why did he expect me to feed him the information he should deliver to my parents? It felt like he didn’t want this. His actions during my pregnancy were all the proof I needed to know that he did not want me.

I didn’t want to be stuck with a man who would rather be free of me. So I called his mum and told her, “Please stop forcing your son to marry me. Everything shows your family wants him to be with me but his behavior has proven that I am not who he wants.” She told me to calm down. “Initially, our son had told us the baby was not his. We didn’t want to just take him at his word. This is the reason we came to visit you and the child. When we came, we saw for ourselves that the child looked like him. We reported what we saw to him and he is ready to pay your dowry. We are not the ones forcing him,” she explained…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

The part about this whole thing that pains me is that the man I had the baby with did not come to see his own child. He had to send his family to see the child and confirm if our son was his. This is not a pregnancy that happened by accident. The two of us decided to have the baby together after we had dated for nine months.

We were so in love and in a place where we both wanted a child. I trusted his love for me. I was sure that he would stick to the plan. Yes, usually people get married first and then have a baby. Ours was the other way around. We decided we would get pregnant, then he would meet my family for an introduction, and pay my dowry.

Let me clarify that I did not force this plan down his throat, nor did I manipulate him to agree to it. Two lovers sat together and agreed to this. We did what needed to be done and it did not take long for me to conceive.

I was happy when I missed my period that month and the test results read positive. While I celebrated the gift the heavens blessed us with, Roland was melancholic. “Babe what’s wrong? Why are you not happy that we got what we wanted without trying too hard?” I asked. “It happened too soon,” he responded, “Usually couples try for months before pregnancy happens. But this one was too fast. I don’t think the pregnancy is mine. Maybe you were already carrying another man’s child before we even decided to have a child.” I was shocked he would say this.

I had never cheated on him or even looked at another man since I met him. So why would I give him another man’s child? I tried to reason with him but he wouldn’t talk to me. I asked him to accompany me to the antenatal clinic but he refused. He rather shared his doubts with his mother and then ghosted me for three months.

When he came back, he apologized for his actions and I forgave him. We started talking but didn’t see each other physically. One time I asked him to support me financially, and he ghosted me again. I didn’t chase him. I didn’t call his mother to advise him to be responsible. I turned my attention to myself and my unborn child. I took good care of us. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

By God’s grace, everything went well and I had the baby safely. After delivery, this guy called me sounding angry. “Why didn’t you tell me and my family that you were going to give birth?” he demanded. Honestly, his inconsistency was annoying.

One moment, he was ghosting me because he didn’t want to provide for the care of a child he was sure was not his. Another moment he was accusing me of not telling his family I had the baby. I didn’t want any more of his problems so I stopped picking up his calls.

Two months after the delivery, his mother called to ask if they could visit to see their grandchild. I agreed. My family prepared and welcomed them well. We were expecting Roland to be with them but he didn’t show up. It was his mother and siblings who came to see the baby.

After the informal introductions, his mum told my dad, “Next week we will come with our son for an official introduction, and then we will pay the dowry.” My family didn’t have any objections although we hadn’t heard from the baby daddy himself.

I was tempted to send him a message to confirm what his mum said but I didn’t. He was the one who started texting me after his people left. I thought we were going to speak like two adults but he had something different in mind. Instead of apologising for his absence, he accused me of blocking him, something I didn’t do. He then asked what he should tell my parents now that I had broken up with him. I never broke up with him either. He was the one who decided our child was not his and then ghosted me.

As his mother explained, they’ve seen that the child looks like him so he is ready to pay the dowry. I keep asking myself what would have happened if the child came out looking like me instead. Would he still say the child is his? Would he still want to pay my dowry? I don’t trust him anymore, not after the way he neglected me. He left me to take care of a pregnancy we both agreed to conceive. How can I marry such a man?

This is why am I here with my story today. Is it a good idea to go ahead with the marriage? Or should count my losses and move on with my life as a single mum?

 

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Guy Fawkes’ punishment was one of the most severe in English history – here’s what happens when a body is hung, drawn and quartered

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Fawkes and his co-conspirators were sentenced to hanging, drawing and quartering. Crispijn van de Passe the Elder/ Wikimedia Commons

After their infamous plot to destroy parliament was foiled, Guy Fawkes and his co-conspirators received one of the most severe judicial sentences in English history: hanging, drawing and quartering. According to the Treason Act 1351 , this punishment involved…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

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  • Michelle SpearProfessor of Anatomy, University of Bristol

That you be drawn on a hurdle to the place of execution, where you shall be hanged by the neck and being alive cut down, your privy members shall be cut off and your bowels taken out and burned before you, your head severed from your body and your body divided into four quarters to be disposed of at the King’s pleasure.

This process aimed not only to inflict excruciating pain on the condemned, but to serve as a deterrent – demonstrating the fate of those who betrayed the Crown. While Fawkes reportedly jumped from the gallows – which meant he avoided the full extent of his punishment – his co-conspirators apparently weren’t so lucky.

By dissecting each stage of this medieval punishment from an anatomical perspective, we can understand the profound agony each of them endured.

Torture for confession

Before his public execution on January 31 1606, Fawkes was tortured to force a confession about his involvement in the “gunpowder plot”.

The Tower of London records confirm that King James I personally authorised “the gentler tortures first”. Accounts reveal that Fawkes was stretched on the rack – a device designed to slowly pull the limbs in opposite directions. This stretching inflicted severe trauma on the shoulders, elbows and hips, as well as the spine.

The forces exerted by the rack probably exceeded those required for joint or hip dislocation under normal conditions.

Substantive differences between Fawkes’ signatures on confessions between November 8 and shortly before his execution may indicate the amount of nerve and soft tissue damage sustained. It also illustrates how remarkable his final leap from the gallows was.

An engraving depicting a person being tortured on the rack.
The rack slowly pulled a prisoner’s limbs in opposite directions. Wellcome Collection/ Wikimedia Commons , CC BY-SA

Stage 1: hanging (partial strangulation)

After surviving the torture of the rack, Fawkes and his gang faced the next stage of their punishment: hanging. But this form of hanging only partially strangled the condemned – preserving their consciousness and prolonging their suffering.

Partial strangulation exerts extreme pressure on several critical neck structures. The hyoid bone , a small u-shaped structure above the larynx, is prone to bruising or fracture under compression .

Simultaneously, pressure on the carotid arteries restricts blood flow to the brain, while compression of the jugular veins causes pooling of blood in the head – probably resulting in visible haemorrhages in the eyes and face.

Because the larynx and trachea (both essential for airflow) are partially obstructed, this makes breathing laboured. Strain on the cervical spine and surrounding muscles in the neck can lead to tearing, muscle spasms or dislocation of the vertebra – causing severe pain. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

Fawkes brought his agony to a premature end by leaping from the gallows. Accounts from the time tell us:

His body being weak with the torture and sickness, he was scarce able to go up the ladder – yet with much ado, by the help of the hangman, went high enough to break his neck by the fall.

This probably caused him to suffer a bilateral fracture of his second cervical vertebra, assisted by his own bodyweight – an injury known as the “hangman’s fracture” .

Stage 2: Drawing (disembowelment)

After enduring partial hanging, the victim would then be “drawn” – a process which involved disembowelling them while still alive. This act mainly targeted the organs of the abdominal cavity – including the intestines, liver and kidney, as well as major blood vessels such as the abdominal aorta.

The physiological response to disembowelment would have been immediate and severe. The abdominal cavity possesses a high concentration of pain receptors – particularly around the membranous lining of the abdomen . When punctured, these pain receptors would have sent intense pain signals to the brain, overwhelming the body’s capacity for pain management . Shock would soon follow due to the rapid drop in blood pressure caused by massive amounts of blood loss.

Stage 3: quartering (dismemberment)

Quartering was also supposed to be performed while the victim was still alive. Though no accounts exist detailing at what phase victims typically lost consciousness during execution, it’s highly unlikely many survived the shock of being drawn.

So, at this stage, publicity superseded punishment given the victim’s likely earlier demise. Limbs that were removed from criminals were preserved by boiling them with spices. These were then toured around the country to act as a deterrent for others.

Though accounts suggest Fawkes’s body parts were sent to “the four corners of the United Kingdom”, there is no specific record of what was sent where. However, his head was displayed in London .

Traitor’s punishment

The punishment of hanging, drawing and quartering was designed to be as anatomically devastating as it was psychologically terrifying. Each stage of the process exploited the vulnerabilities of the human body to create maximum pain and suffering, while also serving as a grim reminder of the consequences of treason.

This punishment also gives us an insight into how medieval justice systems used the body as a canvas for social and political messaging. Fawkes’s fate, though unimaginable today, exemplifies the extremes to which the state could, and would, go to maintain control, power and authority over its subjects.

The sentence of hanging, drawing and quartering was officially removed from English law as part of the Forfeiture Act of 1870 .

 

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OPINION: 4 Children Who Were Sentenced to life imprisonment At A Young Age And what They Did

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There are many unusual things happening across the world. Children are charming and lovely, yet others are really dangerous and have been involved in a variety of illegal activities in society.

In this post, we’ll look at four children who were condemned to life in jail Please keep in mind that some of these children are now adults…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

1. Joshua Phillips:

Joshua Phillips stabbed his neighbor’s eight-year-old daughter and put the girl’s body under his bed at home. After eight days, his mother discovered the body.

Joshua Phillips was fourteen years old when he committed this act, according to reports, and he was sentenced to life in jail.

Take a look at how Joshua Phillips is now.

2. Eric Smith:

Eric Smith, according to sources, was condemned to life in jail many years ago. Eric Smith was just 13 years old when he hit a 4-year-old boy with a rock and killed him.

Following multiple conversations with Eric, he stated that he was bullied by several senior kids at his school and that he killed the youngster because he was irritated and upset. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

3. Lionel Tate:

Lionel Tate was one of the youngest people to get a life sentence.

According to sources, when he was 13 years old, Lionel Tate killed his neighbor’s six-year-old daughter.

Lionel Tate claimed he was boxing with the young girl.

4. Brian Lee Draper:

Brian Lee Draper was sentenced to life in prison in 2006 for murdering a classmate, according to reports.

The murder was committed by Brian Lee Draper and his friend Torey Adamcik, who was sixteen years old at the time.

Parents should always endeavor to teach their children how to be good children, as well as pray for them.

 

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Lady Caught Feeding Neighbor’s Baby With Faeces & Urine Speaks From Prison, Gives This Ugly Reason

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A woman named Stella Namwanje was arrested in Uganda for allegedly committing an atrocious act against her neighbor’s baby. Reports indicate that she was caught on video defecating and urinating on the infant before feeding him the waste. This shocking behavior has drawn widespread condemnation and raised serious concerns about the child’s welfare…Click Here To Continue Reading>> …Click Here To Continue Reading>>

 

The incident took place in the Binyonyi A area of the Nyendo-Mukungwe division. Local authorities acted swiftly after the disturbing footage circulated on social media, prompting community outrage. The police have since taken Namwanje into custody to investigate the circumstances surrounding her actions and ensure the safety of the child.

The case has sparked discussions about the need for stronger measures to protect vulnerable individuals, especially children, from abuse. It highlights the alarming reality of child torture and the psychological issues that may drive such behavior. READ FULL STORY HERE>>>CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING>>>

As the investigation unfolds, the community is rallying to support the affected family and prevent similar incidents in the future. The legal proceedings against Namwanje will likely focus on the extent of her actions and the necessary repercussions for such a heinous crime.

 

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